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I am a Submissive Masochist so to understand the Psychology of a Submissive Masochist, you should understand that someone like me really doesn't want you to like to Chain them down and Whip them. It is more like I have a need to talk you into it. But not to the point where I have to Beg or you are giving me a hard time about it. I mean if I ask you to do it, you would say Sure and act Excited about it. But the way to act is to act Calm and Quiet and let me do all the Talking until you get me in Chains, then YOU take control. But the way you want to act at first is very Quiet, try to get me talking. Ask me to tell you what I am thinking about. I will get Turned off by Women who act Mean and Bitchy, or act too Controlling and expect me to instantly get on my knees and beg. I like to be Seduced into Chains. If you are planning to take me down hard, the way to do it, is to spend a couple hours teasing me first to make me really horny, so I will be READY to be taken down hard. If I am just grabbed unexpectedly and Taken by Force, I will not get horny by it at all. Now the thing is, that if you do it like that it might make YOU more horny if you are Sexually Sadistic, because if you are Sexually Sadistic you will not want ME to like the experience. And me being masochistic, I will not like YOU to like the Experience. So most of the time we will have to play with each others minds to try to Balance things out a little. You will have to THINK Sadistic in your mind, think like you are only playing with me like a Toy, just to get me into the Chains THEN you are planning to Torture the Hell out of me and make me Scream. That's how you need to think. But if you ACT like that, it will turn me off. I need you to act like you are Loving and Caring, and Compassionate and Understanding. You should act like you want me to tell you everything to do, until you Chain me down and Gag me, Make me Talk right up until you tell me to take off my clothes, then tell me to be Quiet so you can begin to Nurture YOUR Sadistic attitude. But until I am naked, you should try to get me talking, tease me, and ask me to tell you what I am thinking. And everything I say You should think you are going to do it Ten times as hard as what I ask you to, so I will not like it. That's the way you should think, but you should just act caring and compassionate like a Nurse. If you start Cussing me out and calling me names, it will turn me off big time! I will be completely NOT in the mood after that. I will feel like you don't understand me, and you are only trying to play games. I will feel like you are not sincere, and you are not Compassionate or Understanding, you are just trying to act like a Bitch. But when you are Whipping me, if you Cuss and Swear just a little, maybe under your breath as you whip me a couple times, it will actually turn me on. Because then it will make me feel like you are really enjoying whipping me, which would make me horny. But I like to feel Respected before you Chain me down, I like to feel like you appreciate what I am doing or you appreciate my Offering of Suffering to you. So you would show me Respect, act Loving and Caring, Seduce me into the Chains slowly and Softly. This is how I like it. I like you to tease me so much by the time I am laying down being chained up I am so horny I don't even care if you KILL me! That's how I like it. If a Woman acts like she really doesn't want to Whip me it will actually make me feel Depressed, and not in the mood. The perfect attitude would be a CARING, Understanding Attitude. Where you act like you WANT to Whip me, but you want to me to tell you what I want you to do. Even if I have told you before, just tell me you like to hear me tell you again. Just say you like to hear me say it. This is good. But if you act like you don't care, or you are not interested, this turns me off. If you act TOO Interested it can also Turn me off, because I feel like I get too Nervous, and I feel like I am a Little kid who is Pouting. I feel upset, and I don't understand why. Or I might get afraid and make up excuses why we shouldn't go through with it. For example a couple times one of my Wives used to get all Dressed up in her Domina out fit and surprise me as I came home from work thinking that was going to be a good thing. But it upset me, as soon as I saw her in the outfit, because I knew at that point there was nothing I could say, I no longer had any input or control over the experience, because she had already decided what we were going to do. That actually ruined the whole evening. After she got to know me, what she would do is wait until I was on top of her Rubbing up and down, then she would get me talking, and fantasizing and she would make me tell her what I wanted. Then she would Hand Cuff me, or throw me in a Cage, so I could not Change my mind, and she would get dressed, then make me really horny again, then Chain me down on a Table and I would love every minute of it, because she took the time to let me tell her what I wanted. This is an important part of Treating a Masochist. A Masochist needs to almost teach you what to do before you do it. This is the Mental Foreplay of a Masochist. Another time when I tried to tell another one of my Wives what I wanted, she would act like she knew everything already because I had told her a dozen times before, so she grabbed the whip and impatiently said " Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know, I know already, you want me to chain you up and Whip you like God Damn Son of Bitch!" As she Frantically Beat the Whip across the Table a dozen times, then she said "Okay let's do it already." As if she was impatient. This ruined that evening, and almost caused us to get a Divorce. Simply because she was acting impatient about something that was very intimate and personal to me. It felt as if she was ripping my heart out by not CARING or Taking the time to UNDERSTAND. And I was feeling bad because I really didn't know how to explain it to her. (This was before I studied the Psychology of Human Sacrifice.) What she should have done was acted more like a Nurse, patiently Caring and Listening to what I was saying, as if my words entertained her, even though she had heard it all before, she should have tried to understand that part of my Sexual NEEDS is to Teach her what to do to me. It is the act of Telling her what I want that puts me in the mood. And when I tell a Woman what I want, I am trying to detect if she likes it or not, and how much she likes what I am saying. I am trying to Measure and Feel her Passion as I speak. And if a Woman responds by acting Caring and Sincere, and Passionate, and Willing, if she asks HOW, but never WHY, then I begin to feel more and more Horny as we talk. Then if she can see I am really horny if she brings up the Subject of Me being Killed, by saying something like, "What if I can not Control myself and I Kill you tonight?" Usually that would put me right over the top, and I would be ready to be Chained down after that. Just the idea that she even THOUGHT about something like that would make me CRAZY HORNY! On the other hand if a Woman says she is Afraid of Killing me, that would Turn me Off big time. It might make me forget the whole thing. Because I want a Woman to WANT to Kill me, not be afraid to kill me. Another thing that Turns me off is when a Woman Lacks Passion. I once had this Girlfriend, who was willing as hell to do what I wanted, but as I tried to tell her everything she sat in the Chair with her arms folded, looking at me like she was waiting for a Bus. No Passion in her eyes at all. This was a Major Turn off, but I still tried to continue, because she didn't turn me off enough to want to stop completely, but she really didn't do anything to make me horny either, it was basically like I was doing everything I could to make MYSELF horny. She wasn't helping at all. Then when she finally did Chain me down, and begin to Torture me, I noticed I felt no Passion from her at all. She was dripping the Candle wax on my body as if she was completely indifferent to the act, like she didn't really care what she was doing one way or the other. As if I was a Piece of Wood, and she was only doing this because she HAD to do it, not because she wanted to do it. At that moment I had to stop the Ritual, and then she became even more upset because I wanted to stop. It was like her complaint then was I did all this talking about it, then I didn't want to do it. She didn't understand that HER PASSION makes a difference. Without Passion the Ritual becomes meaningless. When I am Suffering I NEED the Woman's Passion, I FEED off of it. Her Passion becomes like my Life Blood, Like it is my Life line, nothing in the world becomes more important. When there is no Passion, then there is no Point in doing anything. Because the Ritual is about LOVE. Without Love, it makes no Sense. So you have to WANT to perform the Ritual, and feel somewhat Excited about it. You can't act like it's only a Job, or it's something you need to get over and done with. You have to be PASSIONATE about it! If you try to Torture someone without Passion it can become one of the most Horrifying Experiences of their entire life. Because without Passion, the Ritual becomes sheer Terror! And that could permanently damage a person Psychologically. So one thing you need to understand is PASSION is extremely important during the Ritual, YOU need it, and the Sacrifice needs it, like their life literally depends upon it!
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